Are theirs.
Not yours.
They are not mandatory for you to internalise
Or agree with
Or even come to terms with.
Some have made up their minds long ago
About who you are
Even though you are still on the way to becoming.
Your past choices are a gift to your present self
And it is not compulsory to accept it
Perpetuate it
Or even resemble it,
No matter how much others attach you to it.
The thought, “What will people say?”
Has never been a good building block for anything really.
Other people’s estimates of you belong to them
And while they may make that data available to you
You have no obligation
To use it.
heartinscriber 
Thank you