Is like asking permission for what you have already done.
The order is all wrong
Because the whole time that the other person is speaking,
You are subconsciously downplaying things they say that contradict your already held assumptions,
And amplifying things that confirm what you already know.
The result: nothing new learned despite having ‘listened’.
Are you listening really?
heartinscriber 
I love this Dzi, well said
Thank you 🙂